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What to Do When Trauma Fuels Anger

If you have ever experienced trauma, you may feel angry when you remember everything you went through. Sometimes, you might notice that it doesn’t take much to set off your anger. Or you may find yourself getting angry for seemingly no reason at all.

Anger is actually a very common PTSD symptom and it’s easy to see why someone who has dealt with trauma would feel angry. Still, no one wants to feel angry all the time - it’s a valid emotion, yet it can also lead to unhealthy outcomes. Here’s how to process your anger in a healthy way and use it for constructive purposes.

Listen to Your Anger

Your anger is trying to tell you something. This emotion is coming up for a reason. Even in those moments when you feel like your anger has popped up out of nowhere, there is a deeper issue at play. It’s important to take a step back and try to listen to your anger.

Meditation and journaling can help with this approach. What sparked your anger? Which of your needs is unfulfilled? Is your anger a result of something happening now, or did it come up because you were reflecting on the past? Once you understand the roots of your anger, you’ll understand what you need to do to address it.

Constructive Approach

Anger can be a catalyst for constructive behavior. For example, your anger might force you to notice an area of your life that needs improvement, and that energy can motivate you to act. If you can harness your anger and use it to build something up rather than tear something down, it can help you change your life for the better.

The key is figuring out where you can funnel all of that energy. Doing so will relieve the tension you feel and allow you to channel your anger into something you can be proud of.

Understanding Destructive Anger

Sometimes, you might not be able to find an upside for anger. Maybe you’re furious because you were mistreated, and your anger is so strong that it’s hard to even think straight. When your emotions verge into destructive anger, the easiest thing to do is step away from whatever you’re doing and take a “time out.” You may just need a few moments alone to take deep breaths and calm down.

Find a Healthy Outlet

Having a healthy outlet to express your emotions can help you process your anger. Maybe writing helps you work out what you’re feeling. You could also explore different artistic pursuits. Perhaps you’re passionate about working out. Even cleaning your house and organizing your belongings could be an outlet! No matter what you enjoy doing, you can find an activity that serves as an outlet for your anger.

Talk With a Therapist

There are times when you just can’t figure out how to manage your anger on your own. You don’t have to try to grit your teeth and make it through this all by yourself. Instead, you might find it helpful to get in touch with a therapist. If you can find a therapist who has plenty of experiences working with victims of trauma, you’ll be in good hands. They can help you determine what your anger is trying to tell you and how you can work through it.

Are you regularly struggling with anger as a result of trauma? Do you feel like you want to express your emotions, but feel unsure of who to open up to or what to say? You may benefit from working with a therapist. Please read more about trauma therapy and reach out to us today to discuss your options for scheduling your first session.