If a close friend or relative is dealing with the aftermath of a traumatic event, you might be feeling helpless. You wish you understood how you could ease their pain. You know that they are suffering. But you don’t know exactly what they need from you. On the other hand, you might worry that since you’re not a therapist or a mental health expert, your attempts at helping could make things worse.

But even if you have no real experience with PTSD, there is still plenty that you can do to help a loved one who is struggling with the symptoms. Here are a few ways that you can let them know you’re here for them.

Be Patient

Your loved one may not be ready to talk about what happened to them yet. They might feel hurt and angry or lash out when you try to reach out to them. They may even try to avoid the people who care about them the most because they are not prepared to be vulnerable with them yet. This can be frustrating for you. But remember that it’s all much harder for them. Give them time to open up.

Listen

It’s important not to rush your loved one into conversations about their trauma that they aren’t ready for. When they decide that they want to talk about what happened and how they’re feeling, your job is to listen with patience and compassion. Remember, whatever they tell you privately should remain confidential. Even if other people in your circle ask questions, it is up to your loved one to share information with them in their own time.

Be Supportive

If your loved one brings up the idea of seeing a therapist or meeting with a group focused on healing, encourage them. Unfortunately, there is still lots of stigma surrounding therapy. Let them know that you think asking for help is a smart choice. If they start attending sessions, lend a willing ear when they want to talk about what they have learned.

Hold Back Your Advice

When someone we love is going through a difficult time, our instinct is to give them advice that will help them get out of it. It’s only natural that we want to offer up some wisdom that we might have gained. But sometimes, this advice won’t be well received. What if your friend specifically asks for your input? Feel free to speak up. However, you have to let them lead the way on their own healing journey.

Re-adjusting to Normalcy

It may take a while for your loved one to want to return to some of the activities and hobbies that they loved. Do your best to extend invitations to events and social gatherings anyway. But if all they’re up for is hanging out at home where they feel most comfortable, plan a few fun nights in together. When they’re ready, be by their side as they re-adjust to their normal routines.

Managing Triggers

Some people with PTSD will be triggered by certain sounds, visuals, or places that remind them of the trauma they experienced. One common example is fireworks, which can often be a trigger for veterans who served in combat and returned home with PTSD. If you know that your loved one now has certain triggers, follow their lead when it comes to managing them. Do not put them in a situation where they will be forced to confront them before they are ready. Help them avoid any triggers if that’s what they need.

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